Be the person You most admire

by | Elizabeth's Reflections

“Be the person you most admire.”


The most important thing you can do for yourself is be the person you most admire. Rather than looking outwards at other people and how wonderful they are, realise that for yourself.


This means be in your integrity, speak your truth and treat others as you would want them to treat you. It sounds like a cliche doesn’t it. The reality is not only do we teach others how to treat us by showing them our core beliefs and values by living them. But most importantly, when we are a good person, when we treat others with kindness and respect, when we speak with assertiveness, when we are fair, we see and hear how we are in the world. What others do in response to us it up to them. It has no bearing on who we are.


You build your confidence that you are a worthwhile person, that we do have something to contribute through being the person you most admire. This doesn’t mean that you should put yourself second, and be selfless, or that you should weaken your boundaries to accommodate others. It means knowing yourself so that you are confident that you are fair and reasonable and compassionate.


it is important to have someone to look up to for guidance in your life, but how do they influence you, how do you embrace what they have to teach you in your life?


How can you be the person you most admire?


  • Love who you are

Be comfortable with who you are, work on realising and being true to yourself, not what others want you to be.


  • Live your dreams and goals

Don’t wait till later to realise your greatest dreams and desires, set yourself goals not matter how small. Every step you take moves you closer to realising what you want from this life. As you edge closer and closer to realising your greatest desires, you prove to yourself you can do whatever you put your mind to,


  • Make life simple.

Make your life as simple as it possibly can be, it will reduce your stress levels and make anything you want to do much easier to achieve.


  • Stop pleasing others

Realise that you cannot please everyone, it is impossible. Be loyal to those closest to you and realise making everyone happy is not your responsibility. Do what makes you happy, and your happiness will radiate towards others. Respecting your need for happiness will build your resilience.


  • Know your own mind.

Don’t worry about what other people think. Be yourself, when you stop being influence by others you are able to be yourself and work on what is important to you


  • Love your confidence

Protect your confidence and use it to your advantage, We often take our confident feelings for granted because being confident can make us feel like we can do anything. Then we do too much, go into burnout and lose those confident feelings. Pace yourself protect yourself and love your confidence.


  • Be curious

Be interested in other people around you, keep your mind open to learning. Be engaged and engaging, the most charismatic people in the world are those who pay attention, ask people about themselves and listen.


  • Live life with energy

Take risks be daring. Recognise that every experience is an opportunity to learn more about yourself.


  • Be in your integrity

Be in your integrity and speak your truth. Be consistent, walk your talk, your word should reflect how you behave. Be willing to live what you expect from others.


  • Be kind to yourself

Don’t forget that while looking after others it is also important to look after yourself. You can’t be there for the people you love unless you are there for yourself first.


When you become the person, you most admire you attract people who want to be around you because of the positive energy you exude. You becomes the best person you can be, and you bring out the best in others as well.


I empower women to make educated relationship choices, rather than change for their partner.

Choose, Don’t Change

With Love
Elizabeth R-J


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